It is no secret that distance is one of the most difficult things for any relationship to overcome. The most common advice given to people planning on attempting a distance relationship is to give up before even trying.
While it?s true that most long distance relationships don?t end up working out, it?s not impossible. Here are 5 ways to make a long distance relationship a little more bearable.
Have A Clear Plan For Your Next Meeting
One of the things that make the distance so hard to deal with is the hopelessness. When your unable to see the person you love for any extended period it?s easy to start to feel like you will never see them again.
Having a clear defined time for your next meeting gives you both something to look forward to and helps a lot when things are especially hard. The more concrete and detailed the planed meeting the better.
Find A Way To Keep Intimacy Alive
Distance doesn?t change the needs of either person in the relationship. The foundation of any good relationship is intimacy and that doesn?t just mean sex. There are a number of things that can be done to maintain a feeling of closeness even from a far.
A good example is to set up nightly talks on the phone where you share thoughts, feelings and details of the day. Knowing that your voice is last they hear every night before they drift to sleep can be one of the most intimate feelings in the world.
Honesty and Avoiding Any Doubt
Another reason long distance relationships are so difficult is trust. It?s easy to say you trust someone, but when you?re far away and all you have to go on is his or her word it?s much more difficult. In this situation more than any other it?s positively vital that you are 100% honest about everything.
Chances are you are both going to make mistakes. Talking about them and not covering them up is the only possible way for this sort of relationship to work. The moment any doubt is expressed it?s extremely hard or even impossible to get back to a place of trust.
Spend Plenty of Time Together
Just because you?re far away from each other, doesn?t mean you should spend all of your time apart. With the help of cell phones, it?s easy to stay connected to each other and talk often even on the go.
Another great resource to ease the pain of a long distance relationship is Skype. Skype allows the two of you to see and talk to each other face to face. All that?s required for Skype is an Internet connection and a computer. It doesn?t even cost you a penny.
Do More Than Just ?Talk?
No matter how much you enjoy talking to someone, there comes a point when conversations start to get a little stale. Planning activities to do together on the phone or on the Internet is a great way to enjoy each other?s company without getting bored.
The easiest example of something like this is to watch a movie together while on Skype. Calling the other person on Skype and then watching the same TV program or a movie on HBO is fun, easy and most importantly breaks up the monotony.
Well, there are countless ways to make it work. It all depends on your perspective.
Maria Rainier is a freelance writer and blog junkie. She is currently a resident blogger at First in Education where she?s written on?online adult education programs?along with?optometry jobs. In her spare time, she enjoys yoga, playing piano, and working with origami.